I thought the story from smartmarriages.com was touching this week. It was regarding a woman who was complaining about her I wonder how much thinking of and identifying the positive aspects of a relationship would help it get through the trial some times. The women in the story had a very long list of positive things her husband does and had done for her. I feel like there are times that we can forget many positive things and become ungrateful if we do not keep ourselves grounded doing the things we need to do to remain humble, grateful, and nurturing towards our relationships.
Another principle that stood out to me this week was in “Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage” when Goddard speaks about most us wanting the prize without paying the price for it. We are required to make sacrifices here on earth in order to have a successful marriage. That means giving up things that we may hold dear to us in order to focus more on our marriage. We cannot want something but do nothing to work towards achieving it and expect a change toward the direction of our want. If we want a happy marriage we have to work for a happy marriage and do what needs to be done to nurture that relationship.
As Goddard states “In every relationship there is an inevitable tension…. In part because we share so much-money, time, food, space- even our own bodies”. He identifies the main enemy to this as our natural man which is an enemy to God, and has been since the fall of Adam, and will be forever. I agree with Goddard in that every day there is a choice to choose whether we will follow the Lord or the natural man. This choice affects not only affects our marriage, but relationships with others, and our lives in general.
It’s important to learn to work through our problems, our pet peeves, and things that may annoy us with our partners. As time goes on we will become better at this or “experts” in dealing with the set of things that may negatively affect us in marriage. Goddard quotes a marriage therapist who stated “Each potential relationship has its own particular set of inescapable recurring problems”. We can either move on to another partner, who in turn will have their own set of problems to deal with, or we can deal with the current problems at hand if not abusive and destructive.
I felt I learned a great deal that I can apply and take into consideration in my own life. When choosing a partner for marriage and when I am married. It’s interesting to read about the realities of marriage as it is not always sunshine and rainbows for most. It takes work and dedication centered on the Savior. I think we can all ask ourselves, “What are we doing to be grateful for our relationships and to nurture them?”. Another student this week stated that, “Sometimes we treat strangers better than those that are closest to us and it’s not right”. I think sometimes this may be true, and it is definitely not right.